Attachment and woundedness

Here is another good post from a fellow adoptive mom, Mom's Like Me.  Go check out her post. On her blog she tells about how an emotional wound is like a physical wound, it limits the child in similar fashion. One you can see and are reminded to be patient and kind and help the child heal, the other is hidden. You have to remind yourself that it is there to help the child heal. I add to this, the idea that sometimes when things are going well, we forget our child's woundedness. That feels great for the moment, but a moment later, all can break loose and we find ourselves dealing with the aftermath of "forgetting" for a moment.  But, in truth, it does ebb and flow. In time that wound heals and fades. It comes up at unexpected times, just like grief. But, it does fade and it does heal.......... how much, no one can really say. This holds true for kids with emotional wounds and for kids with internal differences, like Autism Spectrum Disorders, Bi-Polar, Sensory Processing Disorders, ADHD/ADD, etc.